Overview

When the birth father wants to be involved in the woman's prenatal care, the wishes of the birth mother determine the extent to which he can be involved. In most states, birth fathers must be involved in the legal process regarding adoption.

Health care professionals should engage interested birth fathers using the same techniques used to engage others: for example, treating them with dignity and respect, listening actively to their concerns, and remaining nonjudgmental.

In part of three of Understanding the Birth Father Experience, Out of the Shadows, we explore the role of birth fathers in the adoption process and offer rationales for engaging birth fathers.

Questions

Consider the following questions after viewing this segment:

▶ What information, services, and support should birth fathers receive prior to relinquishing a baby for adoption?

▶ What was missing for Daryl, Randy and Paul? (Where were the gaps in service?)

▶ What experiences did TJ and Justin have with helping professionals that made a difference for them?

Having male-oriented items in the office including décor, magazines, coffee, and information about fathering and fatherhood programs can create an atmosphere that communicates that your hospital, clinic or agency recognizes fathers and values their involvement. Consider how many of the strategies from the list below are true for your program:

▶ Are there visual cues to tell men that they are welcome?

▶ Are you and other staff comfortable talking to men, of all backgrounds?

▶ Are engagement skills being used to welcome and involve fathers?

▶ Are there strategies in place to engage fathers when they arrive at the center or clinic?

▶ Are there male-friendly books, magazines, activities?

▶ Are there father friendly posters or displays in the lobby and rooms of the clinic?

▶ Are there written materials specific to the needs of the fathers?

▶ Are there specific referrals and resources available for males?

▶ Are there any other supportive activities geared toward men?