Overview

Most of us know on some level how important self-care is.  But knowing it is important does not mean it is easy.  There are many common barriers to self-care.

Outward Focus.  Most days, we devote far more energy to others' needs than to our own wellbeing.  In fact, many of us are uncomfortable being on the receiving end of other people's attention and assistance.

Busyness.  People who work in human service fields tend to be caregivers by nature, and we want to be there for others.  Because we want to remember birthdays with a cake, help out at church, or deliver a meal to a sick friend, we often work harder and longer.

Uncertainty.  Too many of us simply do not know what meaningful self-care looks like for us.  We know something is missing but we can't quite put our finger on just what might make us feel better.

Denial.  Too many of us believe we somehow don't or shouldn't need support.

Minimizing/feelings of unworthiness.  Natural and man-made disasters and other terrible occurrences in the news remind us there are always other people who are worse off.  We're taught as children to be happy with what we have, since other people have it much harder.  As a result, we sometimes feel guilty because our stress and struggles pale in comparison.

Inability to say no.  Caregivers, by nature or habit, are often the ones who volunteer in their communities, agree to take on duties no one else wants, and otherwise try to help out when they can.  Although this is wonderful, it can also be taxing.

Which of these are barriers for you?